10 Blissful Ways to Start Your New Year Off Right
Every year when December 31st rolls around, I feel shocked at how quickly the past twelve months have flown by. Then I get overwhelmed by the amount of goals and resolutions I feel like I “should” take on come January 1st. There are endless amounts of reflection exercises, gratitude practices and workout motivation stuffed into every corner of the internet come New Year’s Day, but not a lot of simple reminders to breathe and start the year off with self care (which, in my opinion, is the most important part).
Today I want to share ten of my favorite tips for starting the new year off right – by taking care of yourself! For some, planning a weekend getaway and traveling to a new place may be rejuvenating. For others, thirty minutes of quiet reading time each evening does the trick. There are so many forms of self care, and every person responds to something a little different, so don’t be afraid to play around with routines and ideas until you find something that works for you.
Without further ado, let’s dive in and talk about some of the easy ways you can practice self care and start your new year off on the right foot!
1. Adopt a meditation practice.
Real talk: I’ve taken intensive Vedic meditation courses, meditated dutifully twice a day for over a year (I got to a point where I could even meditate on the subway, y’all!) and even contemplated taking a bus up to Canada for a super serious silent meditation retreat. I love meditation and how it makes me feel. However, it’s like a muscle – if you don’t use it, you lose it! And I’ve kind of lost it. (The routine, that is. Not my sanity. Although I may have lost a bit of that too…)
There are dozens if not hundreds of different ways to integrate meditation into your daily life. Some of my favorite easy methods:
- The Calm app. Calm is a fantastic resource for beginning meditators or those looking to reintegrate meditation into their daily routine. It’s free to start and only $4.99/month for unlimited access to all of their tools and meditation practices if you decide to upgrade. The app is a great way to tap into some peace and quiet and re-center yourself when you’re out and about – just add headphones and you’ve got your own little sanctuary!
- Attend a meditation class or group. Many are completely free! Here’s one I’m thinking about trying out in the new year in New York City (where I live). A quick Google search will likely pull up some meditation groups or classes near you too. Take a look around and see what’s available.
- Teach yourself to meditate! (It’s easier than you think.) And contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to sit in silence for an hour with zero thoughts in your head in order to reap the benefits of meditation. It’s so easy to get started, and requires nothing but a willingness to try!
2. Treat yourself to a spa day.
Let’s talk about spa days for a second. They are glorious. The end. Okay, I have a little more to say about them than that, but…you see where this is going. There’s just no replacement for a day full of relaxation and pampering!
One of my absolute favorite places on earth is Refuge Spa in Carmel Valley, California. It’s America’s first outdoor co-ed spa, nestled into the beautiful rolling hills of Carmel Valley. I’ve been to Refuge many times now, and always try to go whenever I’m home in California visiting family for the holidays! (Let’s face it, I’m a little bit addicted.)
Refuge is a full-service spa that offers incredible massages (Swedish, deep tissue and sports therapy massage), but you can also go and simply enjoy the spa and pools for a day with your very own Day Pass ($46, and totally worth every penny). I’d recommend springing for the Refuge Deluxe Package, which is $55 and includes a free cozy, luxurious robe rental and fresh bottle of water!
With your Day Pass, you can enjoy Refuge as long as you wish, wander around and explore all the different thermal pools (Cold, Cool, Warm and Hot is the thermal pool cycle they recommend and boy, does it do the body good!), take some deep breaths in their eucalyptus steam room, warm up in the relaxing sauna, plop down in one of their zero gravity chairs for a rest in one of the warm sun rooms, or sit by one of their cozy outdoor fire pits in your fancy robe and read a book. Check out this video to take a virtual tour and zen out for a couple of minutes.
My mom’s birthday is right after Christmas, and she’d never been to Refuge before so I knew I had to take her this year. She is the most kindhearted, generous, hardworking woman I know, and if anyone deserves a spa day, it’s her! During our entire afternoon at Refuge, she couldn’t stop smiling (and believe me, I was smiling right back). We were both in total bliss. She has mentioned many times since our visit how much she loved it and we’ve already talked about making a return trip!
The magic of a spa day is that you’re forced to do nothing but relax and soak up the self care vibes. There’s nothing else to do besides embrace the present and fully let go of whatever is stressing or bothering you. I love that! When you dedicate an entire day (or even just a few hours) to only focusing on taking care of yourself and your body, you give yourself permission to truly sink into the experience and let go of anything else that may be on your mind – such a wonderful gift to give yourself as you begin a new year.
One of my favorite things about Refuge Spa is their silence policy. No electronic devices of any kind are permitted in the spa, and they ask everyone to stay quiet and respectful during their time there. We visited on a very busy day, and even with lots of other guests nearby, it was easy to find total silence around any corner! All of the guests are generally very mindful of this policy, making it even more relaxing and enjoyable. Just be careful you don’t fall asleep in the thermal pools (ahem, me). Definitely add Refuge to your 2018 bucket list if you’re traveling to California – you can thank me later!
3. Start your mornings offline.
This is one of my biggest 2018 goals! I’m absolutely terrible at doing this right now and my morning routine needs a lot of work. My current “morning routine” is to wake up a few minutes before work, roll over when my alarm goes off, instantly check my email and socials, respond to texts with eyes half-open…all before even getting out of bed. Not exactly relaxing.
My ideal morning routine includes time to wake up slowly, some meditation, a workout of some sort, a delicious healthy breakfast, a half hour to read a book (gasp!), and finally, time to work on my blog or social media tasks before diving into my “real” workday. Sounds like I’ll be getting up at 4am from now on, doesn’t it? In all seriousness, I’d love to figure out a way to fit in as many of these things as possible (and in a sane fashion), so I’ll be working on that this year.
I have a bunch of other habits I’d like to adopt in my quest to become a less-angsty morning person, and I’m sure you do too! I find that reading through other peoples’ (sometimes insane-sounding) morning routines inspires me.
4. Aromatherapy is your friend.
I finally bought myself a cute little affordable diffuser a few months ago, and I truly love using it. I have a few different essential oils that I rotate between: lavender, peppermint, lemon (all of which I got in this awesome doTERRA starter kit…no, I don’t sell oils or anything!), and I also love this Mini Cozy Set from Oui Fresh for the wintertime that includes cinnamon, fir needle and peppermint.
Aromatherapy is such a nice, gentle way to wake up your senses in the morning, help lull you to sleep at night, or keep you fresh and alert during the workday. I also find that peppermint oil helps me immensely whenever I’m experiencing nausea or headaches.
5. Practice gratitude.
I know, I know. I wasn’t going to go there, but I can’t emphasize enough just how much pausing my thoughts (which often veer towards cynical or negative, if I’m honest) and redirecting my brain towards gratefulness has helped me turn my attitude and perspective around lately. I’ve been consciously trying to be more grateful, and want to carry this with me into the new year and beyond.
I just started using the Five Minute Journal app ($4.99), which is an app designed to get you both practicing gratitude and reflecting on each day, for a quick and easy log you can look back on and hopefully learn from. I have only been using it for a few days, but I already look forward to each morning and evening when I pause and think about what is ahead for the day or assess how the day went. It is so helpful for reminding you to take inventory of the little things in each day as well as encouraging gratitude! Side note: $4.99 feels a little steep for an app like this, which is why I put off buying it for so long, but so far, it’s worth it because it makes things simple. And that’s priceless.
Choosing your thoughts is such an internal, quiet form of self care, but so very important. When your insides are happy, your outsides usually are too! Other people notice and benefit from your positive attitude and it creates a ripple effect. Taking just a moment, no matter where you are or what you’re doing, to stop and shift your thoughts from frustration/fear/anger/sadness to gratitude makes such a big difference. Okay, I promise I’ll stop now with the airy fairy gratitude stuff!
6. Eat well.
This one is easier said than done, and definitely the self care item that challenges me the most. Most of us know what foods make us feel good, and which foods don’t. We choose to feed ourselves junk and then wonder why our bodies feel like they’re an inch from falling apart at the seams. (Just me?)
I’ve done the Whole30 on two separate occasions in the past few years, and have found it to be a really valuable process for getting in touch with my body and getting back to basics, in terms of what I’m eating. I’m doing another (modified) round of Whole30 this month, and am looking forward to jump-starting my year with this program! Side note: Whole30 sometimes gets a bad rap for being so restrictive, but I’ve found genuine value in stripping things down and only eating whole foods for awhile. It’s not for everyone, and there are plenty of personal reasons it may not work for you. So this is by no means a blanket endorsement of Whole30 or a you should do this too kind of thing. Do what feels right to you!
In 2018, I want to treat my body better and take care of myself in every form, and eating well is a huge part of that. Does that mean I’ll never eat a drop of sugar again or ignore the croissants in Paris when I see them staring back at me from the bakery window? Heck to the no. But I know I need to do better. This year has been a really difficult one for me health-wise, and I want to do everything I can to make things easier on my body in the new year.
I also want to try out this new cookbook by A Beautiful Mess called Weekday Weekend! It has tons of delicious-looking plant-based recipes and yummy treats to try that are genuinely good for you. I love how colorful and inviting each page is – can’t wait to try some of these dishes out!
7. Get out of your own head.
It’s so easy to get stuck in a loop of worry and anxiety (about the future, your job, your family, health, everything!) but there are some activities that simply force you to stop that endless loop and shift your focus to something else. For me, reading has always been one of those activities. I used to be a voracious reader as a child and teenager, and sadly, once I hit college, I stopped reading (basically at all). It’s something I’ve been wanting to reverse for years, and I’m not exactly sure what’s been holding me back, but I know I want to get back to books in 2018.
Reading is like escaping into another world. It forces you out of your own head and encourages you to use your imagination to create the world that’s being presented on the page. There is no better way to let go of whatever is going on in your life and dive into another world entirely. I’m starting small with a goal of reading five books this year, and if I make it beyond that, awesome! I’d love to hear what’s on your reading list in the comments.
If you’re stumped on what to read in 2018, check out this awesome list!
8. Be compassionate.
This may seem like a no-brainer, but practicing compassion (both for yourself and for others) is such a wonderful act that can bring so much peace and contentment into your life. By being actively empathetic and caring towards yourself and others, you create a positive environment where there is less judgment and more empathy, leading to less conflict across the board.
Being kind to yourself leads to being kind to others, which may sound hokey, but it truly does make a difference! It’s often easier to be kind to others than it is to be kind to ourselves (at least for me!) so that’s something I want to work on in 2018.
If you’re not sold on the benefits of self-compassion, check out this wonderful work by Stanford University’s Dr. Emma Sapala on the scientific benefits of being kind to oneself!
9. Take care of your mental health.
This is a topic that has been getting more attention in recent years, but still does not get talked about enough, in my opinion. Mental health is so vital to living a healthy, happy life (and being able to even attempt any of the things above!) because unless your brain is in good working order, it’s hard to do anything else.
Like much of the population, I have personally struggled with stress, anxiety, and depression at various times throughout my life. I may write a more in-depth post here on the blog at some point about all of that, but for now, trust me when I say that I get it. I get how hard it is to want to get out of bed or go out and see people or just take care of your basic needs some days.
Mental health is just as important (if not more important) than physical health in my opinion, and we don’t do nearly enough to support ourselves and each other in this area. Being open with friends or family, finding someone you can trust to talk about the hard stuff, and acknowledging when you need to ask for help are all vital – even if you’re a person who doesn’t struggle with any specific mental health issues. Life can be tough, y’all. Never hesitate to ask for help or support.
10. Stop “glorifying” busy!
This is something that many of us struggle with: the idea that the busier and more overwhelmed you are, the more important or productive or awesome you are. The truth is that being busy isn’t an enviable state of being. Sure, we all have seasons of life that are chock full of things to do, places to go, people and tasks to keep up with…but feeling like you have to stay constantly busy in order to live a validated, worthwhile life? Kick that thought right out of your head.
Making the time and space to be UN-busy is way cooler than rushing around like a chicken 24/7. For example, reading or meditating each day, taking the time to exercise, cook a nice meal for yourself, call a friend for an hour, or whatever helps ground you are all totally valid and worthwhile uses of your time. You don’t have to be constantly doing in order to feel good about yourself. Being quiet and contemplative, taking time for yourself, spending time alone…these are all such great ways to practice self care and enrich your life. Don’t be afraid to slow down!
What are your favorite methods of self care?
My hope is that some of these ideas have been helpful or useful in some way! I’d love to hear how you are taking care of yourself in the new year and what works best for you. This is by no means an exhaustive list, and I’m sure I’ve missed some awesome ideas, so don’t be shy – drop your favorites in the comments down below.
And don’t forget to check out the Refuge for a truly unforgettable self care experience!
Although I was a guest of Refuge Spa, all opinions are 100% my own. I will always write honestly about my experiences and only promote places or companies that I genuinely like. Thanks for reading!
Pin it for later:
This post may contain affiliate links that earn me a small commission to keep the site running at no extra cost to you! Thanks for your support.
Great list of self-care reminders, so relevant for any time of the year! I appreciate all ten on your list, and two of my favorites are “#3 – Start your morning offline” (makes such a difference) and #10 – “Stop ‘glorifying’ busy.” As Gandhi said, “There is more to life than increasing its speed.” Thanks for putting this list together.
Thanks for being a great teacher and trying to encourage the importance of self care (and that it isn’t selfish!) as I grew up. Love that Gandhi quote so much. Wise, wise man. <3
I love these tips! Many of them are also on my list; primarily to stop “glorifying” busy and to practice more gratitude. Meditation is one of those things I wish I did every day but rarely do. I will check out the Calm app (via your link). I’ve used Headspace but am open to something new!
Yes to everything you said! The glorification of busy is something that I think a great many of us need to work on (ahem, pointing at myself). It’s so easy to get caught up in comparison games and feeling “less than” when you’re not doing what everyone else is doing, or feel that you’re not doing enough. But it’s so damaging and dismissive of all the wonderful things are ARE doing! And self care (including meditation) is definitely top priority for me this year too. Fingers crossed we both make a lot of progress integrating healthy habits this year!